the coaching habit

As I mentioned in Monday’s post, I’m at the 2018 NACADA National Conference.  I’ve been attending sessions on academic coaching, personal development, and self-awareness – and every session has been full of participants.  I decided that I can use this week to highlight several resources that I have used/found in constructing our Life Design Catalyst Coach Training Program -and might be helpful to you with coaching students and others.

One of the best books I’ve read on coaching is “The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More and Change the Way You Lead Forever” by Michael Bungay Stanier (amazon link:

I’m providing a link to a short article that summarizes the main points about the book; he shares the seven most effective coaching questions that managers can use with employees.  I would add that these questions can be used with students as well.  You can read it here:

He posits that these seven questions could be effectively implemented in 10 minutes or less.  The questions are:

  • Question 1: “What’s on your mind?”
  • Question 2: “And what else?”
  • Question 3:”What’s the real challenge here for you?”
  • Question 4: “What do you want?”
  • Question 5: “How can I help?”
  • Question 6: “If you’re saying yes to this, what are you saying no to?”
  • Question 7: “What was most useful for you?”

In his book, he shares that if you’re strapped for time, an effective approach would be to focus on the first three questions; he found that these three questions can immediately lead to deeper conversations.

I’m also a fan of the last question, since it’s a great way to close the conversation – and to gauge the effectiveness of the discussion.

I’ll be posting other models that I’ve used to develop our program in future posts.

Hope you enjoy it!

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