If you’ve been reading this blog, you know that I’m always on the lookout for new and different ideas to help people grow and become the best version of themselves (and serve profoundly). One of my favorite authors, Mark Manson, sent out a newsletter this past Monday (June 8th); in his newsletter, he typically writes about three different topics about some aspect of life. The week, Topic #1 was titled, “The best thing that ever happened to me…”
In a nutshell, one of his friends had his business wiped out. Of course, the friend was down in the dumps; however, when he chatted with again shortly thereafter, he was in the best of spirits. Why? One question:
“What do I have to do to make this one the best things that has ever happened to me?”
His friend decided to take classes in an area he was always interested in, but couldn’t do because he didn’t have the time. Now, he’s pivoting in another (positive) direction.
Think about what’s been going on since the pandemic, between people losing jobs and students failing classes. Think of a colleague or friend who lost a job…how would they respond to such a question? Or, think about a student you work with that failed one or more classes…how would they respond to the question, “What do I have to do to make this one the best things that has ever happened to me?” Talk about a great coaching question, one that takes them out of victim mode and puts the power back in their hands.
Now, think about how you could apply this question to yourself; what if you lost your job tomorrow? How would this question frame your response to the situation?
Next time you have a negative situation, ask yourself the question, “What do I have to do to make this one the best things that has ever happened to me?”
Interesting thoughts, I’m sure…
Thanks for this….great question. I’ve worked with many people over the years who were devastated with employment/work loss. I have, at least 50 % voiced that this was a great gift….because now….
Hi Avis. Thanks for the response. Yes, it’s a great question, especially now. And yes, in many situations, it could be seen as a great gift. Very insightful!