Sunday, January 2, 2022 (Day 2)
Relaxing Music for the month: Healing Hands: Liquid Mind (12:01) – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-hdwGhA4l50
Earlier today, I was asked to give a “sermon” on living with purpose at Unity Church in Greensboro. Every year, they have a theme for the year; this year, the theme is “Living With Purpose,” so I was asked to start off the year with a few thoughts about purpose. It was a lot of fun, as I put together a new and different presentation about purpose. I wanted to focus specifically on my definition of purpose, as well as to provide a tool that would get them to think more about living a “purposeful life.” First, here’s my definition of purpose (that’s every evolving/ever-changing):
Purpose: A sustained, fully-engaged, intentional commitment to future-directed goals and activities that empower you to explore, cultivate, and express an ever-evolving best version of yourself, using your gifts in service to something bigger than yourself.
The THREE most important takeaways in this definition are: (1) setting an intentional commitment, (2) becoming the best version of yourself, and (3) using your gifts in service to something bigger than yourself. I am of the belief that EACH individual was put on this earth to serve in some capacity, whether it’s in a job, raising a family, doing art, or cleaning up a park. So I had the opportunity to share this wisdom with the congregation, but with a twist – they had to come up with ONE thing they could do to live with purpose in three distinct areas: (1) Health/Well-Being/Vitality, (2) Relationships/Connection, and (3) Service/Contribution. What you’ll find in the next piece is not only each of the three categories, but a brief explanation of each of the categories, a probing question, and examples that could useful for you on your purpose quest. Check them out below:
- Optimal state of your heart, mind, body, and spirit.
- What do I need to do to have more health, well-being, energy, and/or vitality in my life?
- Examples: diet, sleep, nutrition, exercise, movement, mindfulness, meditation, attitude, coping skills, joy, love, inner peace, mental health, self-care, prayer, obstacles, adversity, limiting beliefs, vulnerability.
- About nourishing relationships and sense of belonging.
- What do I need to do to be more engaged in my relationships and connections with others?
- Examples: family, spouse, friends, parents, siblings, romantic partners, community, nature, higher power or source, co-workers, colleagues, collaborators, like-minded groups, strangers, energy vampires.
- How you share your gifts with the world.
- What do I need to do to share my gifts with others in order to make a positive contribution to and/or a difference in the world?
- Examples: gifts, talents, strengths, abilities, expertise, ideas, vocation, calling, meaningful work, creative ventures, volunteer work, organizations, associations, business, entrepreneurship.
Here’s what I’m focused on for each of the three areas:
- Health/Well-Being/Vitality – Meditate for at least 10 minutes each day this year (I’m 2 for 2 so far for 2022).
- Relationships/Connection – Stay connected to the Life Design Catalyst Community using some form of communication medium at least once a week.
- Service/Contribution – Continue to facilitate Life Design Catalyst Trainings/Workshops at least once a month as I transition into retirement.
I have others that I have set for each of the three categories, but I gave three examples that might be useful as YOU decide what to focus on in each of the three areas for 2022. If three is too many, start with one – what’s ONE thing you can start doing (or one thing you need to stop doing) – to become your best self and/or use your gifts in service to something bigger than yourself? And once you achieve it, make sure to celebrate! Let’s do this together!
If you’re interested in interesting reads, here are two that I read early today:
- 15 Ways to Become a Better Person – https://www.inc.com/john-rampton/15-ways-to-become-a-better-person.html
- To Build a Business, First Build a Relationship – https://www.inc.com/kimberly-weisul/shearshare-tye-caldwell-studying-relationships-kindergarten-paying-off.html
The first is useful if you’re looking for ideas for something to change in your life. Don’t try to do all 15 – just choose one that resonates with you the most and go for that! The second I LOVE because I believe the key to success are relationships/connection, especially as a black male. Many of the “issues” described in the articles are things that’s I’ve gone through in life, but because of the personal relationships I’ve built over time, I’ve been able to achieve a few things that I never thought possible. Personal relationships do matter and do make a difference!