the year of you, day 53

Monday, February 22, 2021 (Day 53)

Meditation Music: Through My Eyes: Liquid Mind (6:45) –

Question: When in the past have you been true to yourself and your values, even in the face of opposition or difficulty?

Answer: The most recent example I can think of was my time at the College of William and Mary, where I spent only one year of my life. In my 30+ years in higher education all but one year was spent in some sort of role in academic affairs. Even if my work encompassed students affairs-type work, it was always under the guise of academic affairs. When I left the College of New Jersey in June 2006 to head to the College William and Mary to take an Assistant Dean’s position in the Dean of Students Office, I thought this would be a great move because it’s at a prestigious university (one of the top schools in the country), in an area that I thought I could expand my work and make a difference. To make a long story short, it was definitely a bad fit for me; one of the things that I learned (when I looked at my core values and my character and engagement strengths) is that my role was to take people from a negative state to an average state. For me to thrive, I really take people who are good and make them great – and that wasn’t happening AT ALL at William and Mary. Plus, I was getting little opportunity or support to do personal development or purpose work with students. The focus was on getting them off probation by teaching time management, note-taking, test-taking, and the other academic skills to survive college. I was also part of a team that had to make the call on suicidal students, with ZERO background in counseling and therapy. After 8 months on the job, I realized that I had to leave and find something more aligned with what I REALLY wanted to do – help students come up with value-based, strengths-driven plans to thrive. I gave my noticed on March 31st – and on April 2nd (luckily it’s wasn’t April Fools Day) I saw a coordinator of academic advising position open at UNCG. I applied, was asked to do something different than other advisors on campus. And now, the Life Design Catalyst Program has provided opportunities for students to thrive, based on personal development and purpose exploration. Now I wonder what’s in store for me and this work, now that it’s not embraced by administration anymore? Only time will tell, but I know that whatever is next, I really need to do work that’s true to myself…

Other Stuff

For my long treadmill walk this morning, I decided to watch a movie. Today’s movie was one that’s only been on my radar for about a week – and now I’m so glad that I watched it. If you love sports and especially football, then you’ll enjoy it. It’s called “Safety” and it’s on Disney+; here’s a link to the trailer:

The question I couldn’t stop thinking about during the movie was, “Are you willing to do what it takes?” Over and over. And to watch this young man take on life this way couldn’t be more inspirational (it was based on a true story). The movie made me remember an article I read several years ago that provides how to decide whether you are willing to do what it takes. Check it out here:

Think about the things you really, really, really want in life, then ask yourself, “Are you willing to do what it takes?” If not, then you don’t want it bad enough. What is it for you?


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