Friday, June 25, 2021 (Day 176)
Relaxing Music for the week: Reflection: Liquid Mind (8:19) – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_TWMY8fT908
Question: What were you raised to believe about sex? Have these beliefs changed? If so, how?
Answer: The first part is really easy to answer. I can distinctly remember my dad telling me, “if you get a girl pregnant, don’t come home.” And I lived with that up through my junior year in college, when I had sex for the first time. In fact, after that first time, I actually waited at least another year or more before I had sex a second time because I thought I made Merry (my first time) pregnant. And for months, I had this thought that I was going to be a dad and couldn’t go home, quit school and find a job. Luckily, she wasn’t pregnant and life went on. And as I got older, I was able to shift that mindset and not worry about getting a girl pregnant. Today, every now and then, I wonder what it would be like to have to date again, as someone in my late 50’s. Since I am so committed to my work and to working out, I feel like I would have to be with someone who’s focused on companionship vs marriage. Someone where we could engage in some serious intellectual conversations, but still go out and have fun playing golf, tennis, or pickleball. Sex would be an added bonus, but not a requirement. And I prefer to read a book than watch TV, although I can still get sucked into watching several episodes of Law and Order: SVU. Not only has my beliefs around sex has changed, but even my view of relationships have changed. And I think that’s a good thing.
And speaking of relationships, here’s an interesting article to read if you’re in a situation where you’re trying to decide whether to stay or go. I know that many are fine, but for the few that are not, you might find some interest in this article:
- The 5 Questions That Predict Your Relationship is Over – https://colleenmurphydepaolo.medium.com/the-5-questions-that-predict-your-relationship-is-over-8831f22d527e (pdf here: The 5 Questions That Predict Your Relationship is Over-Colleen Murphy)
Again, it’s another one of those articles that make you think about your relationships.