January 13, 2021
Meditation: Thought Museum (Liquid Mind) – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LPCNLX7ESCE
Question: What does happiness mean to you?
Answer: I actually believe in contentment more than happiness. I see happiness as instantaneous and fleeting, with contentment more serene and long-lasting. It’s a sense of deeper satisfaction, being okay with one’s situation in life. It seems that happiness is dictated by the external world, where contentment is dictated by the internal world. Happiness isn’t a bad thing, it’s just not my thing. In the past 10-15 years, I can honestly say that I was in a “happy” state once, because my wife Rebecca stated that I did a “happy dance.” And here’s the thing – I can’t remember what it was that made me do a happy dance. That’s how fleeting it was for me. For the most part, I’m a pretty even keel guy, so I don’t get on big highs or deep lows – just try to maintain a content state, with peace and ease.
If you work with students – or anyone that matter – on setting and achieving goals, here’s a great article that you might want to check out from one of my top FIVE favorite authors, Mark Mason:
- The Surprising Science of Goal Setting (And Why You’re Probably Doing It Wrong) – https://markmanson.net/goal-setting
Here’s my take away from the article:
“The value of our goals is not in what we accomplish, but in the direction they give us. Goals orient us towards what we’d like in life and give us a little kick in the ass to start moving towards it. But if we discover on the way that actually, we don’t want that goal in our life, then we should drop it! A lot of people get upset about this. They feel like a failure. So what? Failure is normal. Failure is how you learn. Better to fail sooner and pick a better goal now than to spend the next year of your life pursuing something that sucks.”
“The truth is, we won’t know if they’re right for us until we try them on. We often don’t know what we want until we get it, or try to get it. We often don’t know what we value until we try to live out those values. Goals are just the experiments that help us test these things out. If we realize along the way that a goal isn’t serving what we want and what we value, there’s no shame in letting go of your goals and finding new ones.”
This fits A LOT of students I work with, both in terms of their major and/or their college education. Most have a goal of to pick the right major – or even going to college – but have no value or purpose behind their choice. It would be interesting if students took the following approach to their major and/or education:
- If you realize that your choice of a major isn’t working for you, change it. There’s nothing wrong with pursuing something that actually resonates with your heart and soul, especially now.
- If you realize that your choice of a college/university isn’t working for you, change it or leave. There’s nothing wrong with either going to a different institution and/or pursuing something outside the educational system, something that actually resonates with your heart and soul.
Please share any thoughts about the article and/or my comments.